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A TRIBUTE TO MY PARENTS ON VALENTINE’S DAY

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It’s Valentine’s Day – again. While couples young and old celebrate the day exchanging gifts and Valentine cards, my thoughts, as always, are with those who will not be sitting down to a romantic candlelight dinner. Reason: they are single. To them, I say, “Happy Single Awareness Day!” I am one of you too.

Which one are you? There’s a third one – being single and NOT available. 
Unless you are married to someone wonderful, it’s better to remain single. I am not putting down the institution of marriage. But I seem to be hearing more couples getting divorced than getting married, especially among older couples. Once the children are grown and flown, a couple’s marriage is put to the test. Retired couples, in particular, find that being in each other’s company 24/7 can either rekindle the old flame of romance and passion, or it can extinguish forever the last sparks of a dying marriage. The current stay-home stay-safe during the pandemic is a real litmus test for many couple.  
It takes a lot of effort, compromise even sacrifice to keep a relationship going. Many young couples don’t have the patience to work at it. Gone are the days when wedding vows were taken seriously and couples remained married ’till death do us part’. Even after death, the bereaved spouse stayed faithful to the memory of the dearly beloved. Second marriages were almost unheard of, as were divorces. Indeed, to ask for a divorce would be akin to asking to be ostracized.

My parents – Annie Goh Kwee Foung and Jackie Fu Fook Im (1947)
Today on Valentine’s Day, I dedicate the day to my parents. I remember them as a very loving couple. As a child, I used to listen with fascination to the love stories my mother told me about how my father wooed her. Their courtship days were like chapters taken from a Barbara Cartland novel. My father simply adored my mother, and spending time with her was something he treasured as we saw him only during the weekends. His work as a medical sales representative often took him outstation and away from the family.

My parents and their firstborn – me!


My father treated my mother like she was a fragile porcelain doll. He was always eager to please her and make her happy. My mother bore him six children during their 10 years together. I was the eldest. My youngest sister never got to see my dad for he passed away in 1957 after a short period of illness. My mom was heavily pregnant with her sixth child when my dad left her – forever.

My mother passed away in February 2021 at age 94. She never remarried, and remained a widow all these past 64 years although she had suitors. Alzheimer’s robbed her of much of her memory in her final years. I am sure she missed my father on days when her mind was clear, and her memory sharp. On those good days when I showed her an old photo of a loving couple, and asked if she knew who the couple was, without any hesitation, she would reply ‘That’s me and that’s your father. But he’s gone now. He was very good to me.’

Whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, today is the day we celebrate LOVE. We should be celebrating love every day, in the little things we do, for the people we love. Love doesn’t have to cost a cent. Love can be a genuine smile, a warm hug or an affectionate kiss. Or a good deed for someone we don’t know but who needs our help.

HAPPY LOVE DAY, EVERYONE!

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